At home,  my wife and I have a small plaque hanging on our bedroom wall,  with a quote attributed to the Indian mystic Meher Baba.

“A relationship that deals with Truth,” it reads,  “walks always the fine line between Chaos and Cosmos.”

Chaos,  Cosmos,  Always (or All the Time,  to quote the mystic correctly)…

Relationships are not a place where we can keep avoiding harsh truths and realities. They are hard work. And are meant to be.

As many of the best writers on partnership have argued (John Welwood for example,  and Harville Hendrix are my personal favourites),  relationships are the place where human beings are forced to grow – emotionally,  spiritually,  practically. When embraced for what it can truly give,  a loving,  challenging,  open and honest relationship is the most powerful personal development workshop on the planet.

Some relationships thrive from the outset. Others struggle and ultimately fail. Yet others go through hell,  repeatedly,  on their way to true partnership.

What matters – wherever your relationship has been and is now heading – is that the space between you has the opportunity to become truly conscious,  and that you and your partner (whether heterosexual or gay) are prepared to deal with and confront the truth that you share. That’s a third reality which you co-create and which,  if you choose to come into couple therapy,  is the true client.

As a couples therapist,  I work in an engaged,  proactive way,  initially for six sessions or so,  and longer if that’s needed.

If you’re interested in working with me,  do get in touch.